I’m not being negative I am being realistic. If you are planning your own wedding; things will go wrong and you will know it. If you have hired a planner or a friend; things will go wrong and you might not know it!
I spent just shy of twelve months planning our wedding. I thought I had thought of EVERYTHING! I was wrong. Ok Aaron, it’s in writing. Yes I admit I was wrong about something. Planning and executing a wedding takes a team of people to help with the most minute but incredibly important tasks. If you are like me, many people will offer you help but you decline because “you’ve got it all covered” and you are a control freak so really deep down you don’t believe anyone will do it quite like you would. Advice: let go of the reins! I also had a few moments when people offered me help “anytime” but when you call on them for some reason they just can’t seem to get it together to get there and lend a hand. Every bride has these people in their lives. These will be the same people that call you friend but then seem to miss every important event like bachelorette parties, bridal showers, birthdays and other events.
So these are the things that went wrong at our wedding that I was aware of but by no means affected how great our wedding was! I think I really need to state that being aware of what went wrong by no means implies that our wedding was not the most amazing day of my life so far! We put in a ton of work and had the help of so many people and it was a beautiful day and I have been the calmest and happiest since that moment forward. I can’t say there aren’t things I would change if I could do it again but I also look at every moment as a learning experience. So I hope you can learn from my flubs!
1. It rained. We had planned to have our ceremony in the most beautiful out door venue. In a clearing of a walkway in a public park with a view of the inlet. There were three trees that made a natural arch where we had planned to hang a beautiful chandelier. We made white washed garden benches for our guests to sit on and we made our oun simple flower arrangements to line the “isle”. But it rained and everything needed to be re-imagined. My husband and our families did a fantastic job at re-locating the ceremony onto the deck that spanned the back of our hall and it was beautiful looking over the trees to the inlet behind. It would have been nice if the daycare below us had brought the screaming children indoors for our 20 minute ceremony but at least it is a funny memory. You can ask any one of my bridesmaids and they will swear to you they all thought I was going to have my bridezilla moment screaming at those children. I was too happy I wouldn’t let anything ruin our moment.
2. Because the ceremony was in the hall, it didn’t give my bartender the peace or privacy to set up cocktail hour or prepare his bar in time. People began to pester him while he was still trying to stock.
3. I/my helpers forgot to put the drink tickets on the tables.
4. I forgot to give the bartender a float so my poor MC had to run out to the bank while we had our pictures taken.
5. We ran out of Strongbow. We had a huge selection of beer hard liquor and ciders so we weren’t concerned. Apparently this would not do according to my family and I watched my brother walk in with a flat of Strongbow 40 minutes later. Why? Love him for it though!
6. The cake was wrong. The bakery put our decorations on someone elses cake and the flavours were all wrong. We had a cake to cut as well as a slab cake and everything was wrong. The first picture of us cutting cake is me telling my husband it was wrong. It still tasted amazing but it was not what we ordered.
7. My bridesmaid didn’t try on her dress when she had it altered and they had forgotten to take in the top of the straps so they had to pin it. You can tell in every picture that her dress is not quite right. It’s a good thing she is gorgeous because I am the only one that noticed because I knew what to look for.
8. The freezer in the kitchen broke so we had to send the dads out for more ice. Good thing we had all those coolers and tubs to store al the booze!
So that’s it. Not bad right. Not even ten things. The only reason I am aware that any of this happened is because I had a hand in planning everything. If I had had a planner I would not have known anything had happened. That being said almost every item that went wrong my good friend Jenny dealt with it all like a pro. I wish she had been a bridesmaid but I am so glad she was my MC because I would not have trusted anyone else more than I did her to make sure everything was taken care of! I have made some questionable decisions in my life but I will never regret choosing the man I married or the women who stood up with me on the most important day of my life.
So to all those control freaks out there. Be prepared! Things might go wrong, but it ends up being perfect anyway!
